This is my very first post. I’m beginning this blog for mothers and others who like myself went through the horror of finding out your child has been molested. This is a horror no one should have to deal with, yet it is becoming a all too familiar refrain in our society.
Fortunately, there are more and more resources available to the abuse victim, which is absolutely needed and wonderful. I’m going to be focusing on the mother, and the “others,” whoever the others may be depending on your family makeup. In my case it was my daughter and her two brothers, one older and one younger.
It is truly a devastating experience, one I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy, and one which all too often is kept quiet, and the shame is transferred to the victim rather than too the perpetrator. Why is that? Our society must stop blaming the victim for wrongs suffered.
This is still a area not talked about in the open, it still is kept quiet, and shoved under the rug to keep up false appearances, and keep masks on which helps no one in the end. The number of people I talk with that are still dealing with issues from thirty and forty years in the past are astounding.
The way discovery of abuse is handled or mishandled causes hurt and divisions in families that last for decades. This is a animal with many faces. I’m hoping to look at many of the facets of this and see where this journey takes us.